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How do you deal with drama in the dental world?

I recently graduated from dental hygiene school, and will be returning to my hometown to find a job. I’m from a small town with about 20-30 dental offices and I have worked at two of them. So in the process of trying to find a job, I have discovered an untruthful statement about my work ethic, specifically, my punctuality. A rumor was told that I am always tardy and that I am an unreliable person. Not only is this statement untrue, but the lady who spoke about me has never worked with me or met me in her life. Based off of what my source says, this lady spoke to someone at one of the office’s that I used to work at, and I have a pretty good idea of who it is.

I figure I should probably let this rumor roll of my back, but I can’t help but experience the initial frustration and sadness that comes along with being the victim in cases like this. This is someone‚Äôs future career on the line; why must women be so catty? The only satisfaction that comes from this is that my past employers know that I have a strong work ethic, and that I strive to be on time every single day. In fact, to help with the healing, I reviewed a letter of recommendation that a dentist wrote to one of the dental hygiene schools that I was applying to. In his letter, he states that I was never late to work.

Part of me wrote this as a venting process, but the other part of me wrote this with the hope that if other people hear my story, they will think twice about spreading lies about someone. But the truth is, these sort of things are hard to prevent, and if they do happen to you, it is more important than ever to hold your ground and be the bigger person. You will hear rumors about you, and it will hurt, but the peace lies in knowing who you are, and people will see that. Your character is the best weapon of all in battles like this.



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First, I’m so sorry this happened to you! Secondly, very well said! No matter what profession you are in, or even in life in general, there are those who don’t treat others as they would like to be treated themselves and who gossip and spread rumors. This is very frustrating, saddening, and hard to let go when it happens. You are absolutely right that if this happens it is important to hold your ground, be the bigger person, know who you are, and let your character be a weapon.
 
Have you confronted the person you suspect said this about you and politely and professionally asked what they said and why? Going to the source might help you let it go a little easier, especially if you can get some clarification. Sometimes confronting people like this might make them think twice about doing it again to someone else because being called out is uncomfortable and embarrassing.
 
I’m so glad you have past employers that back up your strong work ethic; you should absolutely have satisfaction in that! Remember too, that you cannot control other peoples’ actions or words, you can only control how you react to them. By taking the higher road, you will almost always come out ahead!
 
On a side note, would you mind if I used what you wrote here as a Q&A article for my dental hygiene publication, Today’s RDH? It would be completely anonymous you wrote it unless you wanted your name on it. I feel that you have an important message here and would like to share it with the larger audience!

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You are most welcome! Thank YOU for the kind words! I think you have a good plan here. When you go with your gut feeling on what to do, especially after having some time to think about it, your gut is almost always right! On the same lines, being the better person almost always will work in your favor! I think you totally have this under control!
 
I can email you the link when your question is published! Thanks again for your permission!!

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