{1 - 24} GreyGrey
{25 - 49} GreenGreen
{50 - 499} BlueBlue
{500 - 4999} OrangeOrange
{5000 - 24999} RedRed
{25000+} BlackBlack

Please confirm that you would like to report this for an admin to review.


Started a new office the the existing RDH is not friendly

How to deal with her. She is the Drs favorite and got an assistant fired because she stood up to her. The Dr and her go to lunch by themselves all the time, they are close, I’m sure the RDH has the Drs best interest at heart, but she clearly does not like me and thinks she knows better. Both of us have been practicing 10 yrs. and I have worked with 7 RDH in one office before and never had this much animosity. I’ve only been at this office for about 4 months, I really like the Dr and other members of the team, but seriously thinking of leaving because of her. I don’t need or want to put up with her, plus I have been getting really bad anxiety because of it.



Confirm that you would like to Remove Email Alerts for your question. You cant undo this and you will not be able to re-subscribe.


5 Answers

I agree with Sally, ignore her. It’s not worth your sanity or emotional health. If at all possible maybe you can speak with the office manager and he/she can speak with the dentist. Another thing I’ve learned over the years in my previous job before hygiene, kill them with kindness.

Confirm that you would like to select this answer as the "Best Answer" to your question. This will bring this answer to to top and be highlighted as "Best Answer". You can always change this if a better answer is given.


I agree with WarnerSL….kill her with kindness. I bet she feels threatened by you. She might be closer to the dentist than you think and who knows……I always think it’s funny to hear that so and so got so and so fired!! Gossip kills! Who told you this hygienist got the assistant fired? Steer clear of that gossip! Never trust a gossip even if it’s about someone you don’t like. Just do your best and hopefully the dentist doesn’t start liking you better or you could be fired.

Confirm that you would like to select this answer as the "Best Answer" to your question. This will bring this answer to to top and be highlighted as "Best Answer". You can always change this if a better answer is given.


I limit interaction with negative people….I’ve been practicing 28 years and have seen all kinds of people, all kinds of favoritism (some inappropriate lol)…but my schedule is full and I just knock it out, take care of my own business, and it always just seemed to not interfere with my days…only at one office was another hyg also acting office manager and a real p.i.t.a….I quickly moved on to something better and tolerable…plenty out there not to put up with BS 🙂

Confirm that you would like to select this answer as the "Best Answer" to your question. This will bring this answer to to top and be highlighted as "Best Answer". You can always change this if a better answer is given.


How much interaction do you really need to have with her? If I were you, I’d just ignore her and go about my daily business. Don’t even talk to her- be civil, say hello and goodbye, and if you have to speak to her for a work-related reason do so, but other than that, just pretend she isn’t even there.
There’s always one person in every office who will make your life difficult!

Confirm that you would like to select this answer as the "Best Answer" to your question. This will bring this answer to to top and be highlighted as "Best Answer". You can always change this if a better answer is given.


I agree on the “kill ’em kindness” front…also how I deal w/difficult patients. Only up to a point though! It can get tiresome to be faced w/negativity all the time. Sometimes being new threatens an existing staff member (been through that) and can be improved with time if you keep taking the high road. However…if it lasts longer than a year…there might be something else going on and it can be best to find a more satisfying setting to keep your sanity. Easier to tackle if you’re learning lots at work! Including how to deal with difficult co-workers!! best wishes!

Confirm that you would like to select this answer as the "Best Answer" to your question. This will bring this answer to to top and be highlighted as "Best Answer". You can always change this if a better answer is given.


You must be Logged In to Answer this Question

Already a Member, Log In
Not a member yet? Sign Up