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When should I tell my Dr. that I’m pregnant?

I currently left my rdh job due to cutting hours and lack of patients. I just got offered a new job at an office that is growing fast. I accepted the position the Dr offered me today. My dilemma is that I’m 11 weeks pregnant and I’m freaking out to tell him. He has another rdh that’s expecting any day now. I just don’t know how to go about telling him. I want to be upfront and honest. Any ideas?



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If you are telling your friends you should disclose at work. You wouldn’t want the Dr to hear it from someone else.

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Congratulations on your pregnancy! As I’m sure you know this is a very sensitive subject, especially if you got hired to replace another pregnant hygienist. The good news is the law is on your side. Legally (although I am no lawyer!), the Dr can’t fire you or rescind the offer after finding out you are pregnant. Of course that doesn’t make it any easier to have the talk with him! If you plan on having this job for the longer term (as in coming back after you give birth) then it is important to be upfront and honest so you don’t upset the Dr and damage a long term professional relationship. However, I would recommend starting work first and giving it a week or two before you bring your pregnancy up. This obviously assumes you aren’t completely showing, but I would not bring it up on day one of work and especially don’t bring it up before you start so that he doesn’t make some excuse as to not hire you. Hopefully that would be a non-issue though otherwise that is a Dr you probably don’t want to work for!

 

As for the actual conversation after you have settled in for a week or two, just approach the Dr at a time where you think he is free, and then ask him if he has a few minutes to talk. Be direct and honest with him and tell him that you are a little nervous but you feel it important to let him know you are pregnant. If you plan on being at the office long term, let him know that you really want to make a career at his practice and you hope that the timing of your pregnancy and getting the job around the same time doesn’t interfere with that. I would hope the Dr is understanding and supportive. And worse case where he isn’t, then at least you found out early on that he’s unethical and doesn’t care to support his employees!

 

Congratulations again on your pregnancy and best of luck with the whole situation!

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The other hygienist will be back from maternity leave before you are due to go into labor. So both of you won’t be gone at the same time which is good. The doctor I last worked for hired a new hygienist when she was 8 months pregnant and was ok with it. About a year later I got pregnant, then another hygienist, then a third hygienist! Then an assistant and front desk employee got pregnant! Our due dates were a little staggered so it worked out. He just hired some temps here and there or we dealt with being down a person or two but in the end it all worked out. Good news is you still have 29 weeks to show you are a good and hard worker and all he will need to do is get a temp to cover your maternity leave. It could even be the same person who is going to be covering for the other hygienist. Good luck!

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Im 8 months pregnant myself and chose to tell my boss that I was pregnant as soon as I found out. I decided he should know since I chose to not take and X-rays or work with nitrous. He has been really supportive about this.

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Also I wanted to add that there are 3 other pregnant women at my office. We all go on leave literally march, april, and may:) This is also my second time being pregnant in this office and I have a 2 year old at home:) My boss understands completely

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Congrats! Offices will adjust. Pregnancy is life. The boss will be happy for you. I’m sure it is always a challenge when any member of the team announces a pregnancy. Be honest. It’s is a discrimination issue and doctors know this. I’m sure it will go well. I’m sure the first thought will be: I just hired her…..will she come back after maternity leave or do I need to start the hiring process all over again?…..
No worries!!

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Itll be fine I think most dentists in todays workplace realize this is a usual dilemma with having mainky female hygienists! Not much they can do about it! Id tell him as soon as you start telling family and friends 🙂 best wishes on your pregnancy!

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Honesty is the best policy

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I would disclose asap, otherwise it could seem like you are hiding it, and trapping the dds, b/c once he hires you he cannot rescind his offer.

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If you knew when you were offered the job you should have said it right then…its just the right thing to do…be upfront…Pregnancy isnt a bad thing…offices full of women deal with it all the time…let them figure it out early and know its coming 🙂 and CONGRATS 🙂

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